Finding Your Community: Reddit, Forums, and Safe Spaces Online
Exploring sexuality can feel isolating — but you’re not alone. There are millions of people online having the same conversations, asking the same questions, and sharing the same discoveries.
Best Online Communities
- r/sex — general sex education and discussion
- r/sex toys — toy reviews, recommendations, troubleshooting
- r/BDSMcommunity — kink education and support
- r/DeadBedrooms — for those navigating low-libido relationships
- r/SexPositive — body-positive, shame-free discussions
- r/GoneWildAudio — audio erotica community
Forums and Websites
- FetLife — kink/BDSM social network (like Facebook for kinksters)
- The Bedroom — sex-positive forum
- Loving BDSM — podcast with active community
- Oh Joy Sex Toy — educational webcomic and reviews
Social Media
- Instagram: @sexedchool, @erikalust, @sexpositive_families
- TikTok: Sex educators (search #sexed, #sexpositive)
- Twitter/X: Many sex educators and toy reviewers active here
What to Expect
Good communities offer:
- Honest advice from real people
- Product recommendations
- Validation that your interests are normal
- Education resources
- Support during tough times
Red flags:
- Pressure to share photos
- Dismissive attitudes toward boundaries
- Non-consensual content sharing
- Aggressive private messaging
Etiquette
- Search before asking — most questions have been answered
- Be respectful — everyone’s journey is different
- Use trigger warnings when discussing sensitive topics
- Don’t DM people randomly — especially not explicit content
- Verify information — not everything online is accurate
Finding Local Community
- Munches — casual social gatherings for kink-interested people (clothes on, public place)
- Sex-positive workshops — often hosted by feminist bookstores or community centers
- Tantra classes — if spiritual sexuality appeals to you
- Swingers’ events — if consensual non-monogamy is your interest
Recommended Activity for Today
🍭 Join r/sex toys on Reddit — read the wiki, browse top posts, and introduce yourself. It’s one of the most welcoming, informative communities online.
Tomorrow: Reviewing toys like a pro — how to write helpful, honest reviews.